Stupid, stupid, stupid!

Dork, dork, dork!
Fuq'ing dur - wah, wah, wah, wah....

There are times when I really wonder about people's actions... Normally, I wouldn't bother with it, but this time it directly affects my relationship with a pretty cool lady and her equally cool children.

See, this lady had been living in the far SouthWest of the country, and struck up a friendship and online courtship with V, a friend of mine here. While I was (and still am) rather dubious about how well the relationship was going to go, considering they were almost WORLDS apart physically (not to mention mentally), I held my tongue and let them go forth...

I finally met her at an SCA event earlier this year. I found her to be bubbly and happy, fun to hang around and alltogether nice. I thought that perhaps, just perhaps, if the two of them actually worked at being FRIENDS, that something could bloom out of that. V got upset that weekend because of some of her actions, and I ended up telling him to quit reading into things based upon prior actions of prior girlfriends.

V'd been adament that the lovely lady and he were NOT seeing one another, that he wasn't seeing ANYONE. He'd been going through a divorce and had finally filed the paperwork for it, and *said* that he was done with dating for a while, simply focusing on his work and survival at this point in his life. And yet... He was talking with the lovely lady about having her move up to Portland, and seeing him, and being with him...

At the same time, V apparently was seeing a gal from his old work, over at FM. He'd told her that he wasn't going to be serious at all with anyone, and that he didn't want a serious relationship with anyone because he'd been so stressed about having a relationship in the past... At the same time, he was still dealing with a psychotic woman from the North that he'd had the misfortune of finding attractive enough to pseudo-date whilst still sort-of dating ME, still dating another gal, and STILL MARRIED AND LIVING WITH THE WIFE (this was several years ago)...

Are we getting dizzy yet? Yeah, me too...

SO... Here is our lovely lady, not really knowing much about the whole thing with this gal from his old work at FM, dealing with the frequent and annoying calls from the psycho from the North, and deciding that it would still be a good idea to uproot and move up here with the promise of a new start, and possibly a new life with V...

NOW things get interesting (HA - Like they weren't before)...

V has been diagnosed with Manic-Depression and been given meds (which he doesn't take over half the time). He's also drinking - a lot - and not eating. He's also been telling the psycho up North to leave him alone, but then calling her anyway even AFTER he changes his phone number.

V opens his home to the lovely lady and her two children, telling her in one breath that he doesn't want any type of relationship at all, and in the next breath that he really does love her and wants to be with her... And they've been sleeping together... At the same time, he's still seeing the gal from his work, and still talking with the psycho up North, though at this point he's supposedly trying to break things off with her and get her to leave him alone... Still.

Things between him and the gal from work are strained - she feels more for him than he wants her to. I cannot speculate on anything else that was going on between the two of them, but I do know that she broke things off from him, at least for a while, because she knew that it was her feeling for him more than his feelings for her.

Things between him and the lady are REALLY getting strained. The lady has been independent for a long time, and has been the "mommy" for so long, that it's difficult for her to break those habits. Instead of working together on this issue, V simply blows up on her each time she reverts to "mommy" mode, screaming at her that he doesn't *need* a mother, and she should just leave.

Things somehow mellow out between the two of them for a month or so, and she actually even gets to meet his parents (something that not even *I* warranted, and I supposedly am the relationship that he regrets screwing up the most) for the holidays.

At some point, over the last 24 hours, however, apparently things came to a head again, and the lady found out that apparently V has been seeing women on the side and all the while he's been telling her otherwise. I get a call this morning just before I log on for my shift from her, saying that she and her children have been kicked out of V's house, and she is taking them back down to the SW states.

*sigh*

She thanked me for being so kind, and apologized for calling so early. And all I can think is "What a stupid thing for V to do... after everything he's been through, and all the crap he's done in the past, when is he going to learn?" Apparently never. Oh, and he's deleted his myspace profile, probably to avoid having me write to him that he's a stupid asshole that needs to grow up and be honest for once in his life in a relationship.

So, that's that. I'm going to remain friends with the lady, regardless of where she moves. I like her, and I think she's good people, if sometimes a little misguided - aren't we all at times... ;-)

Argh.

~M